Published on October 18, 2018
The holiday season tends to compound all our feelings of grief when we’ve lost someone we love.
Many people describe grief as coming in waves. Special days you used to share can bring on a tidal wave of grief that continues to build until the anticipated day arrives. The anticipation may be the worst part. Finding ways to prepare and cope are essential. Like all waves, this too will reach a crest, crash, and then recede. It won’t last forever, but it can be very intense. The following tips from our grief team can help:
- Remember that you have permission to do things differently. Decide which traditions from the past will work well, let go of those that don’t, and consider entirely new options. Getting away to a place where you have never been with your loved one may help you cope with the season.
- Ask for help from family and friends with holiday planning and preparation. This gives them an opportunity to be useful in concrete ways. You don’t have to do it all alone.
- The reality is your loved one is going to be present spiritually and emotionally during your holiday celebrations no matter what you choose to do. Sharing stories and memories with friends and family can be very comforting. Finding ways to make your loved one part of your celebration can also be profoundly healing.
- Consider setting a place at the table for them, decorating their grave, writing them a letter, or lighting a candle in their honor.
- Alive’s grief support team is here to help with individual and group counseling. We also host memorial events throughout the fall and holiday season. Visit us online or call 615-963-4732 for more information.
Grief During the Holidays Seminars
Learn about the grief process. Find out what you can do to cope during the holiday season. Warm your heart by taking time to remember loved ones with us.